[Reprint] character, determines the men and women different love fate! _-Chi Hen aiq

Original address: character, determines the men and women different love fate! author: tyyu321 decide the fate of the "personality", this is the ancient Greece the philosopher Hurley Crockett said of a famous saying, then, this quote has been Switzerland psychologists Ringier, France Emperor Napoleon, near the Chinese writers and many other celebrities to different forms of restatement, visible, this decisive seriously. ; Therefore, men and women different love fate, are men and women of different character. We know that mankind's evolution from apes to people, has undergone a long time. In these years, the natural character of man, and was gradually forming systems. Meanwhile, work on one's character plays a decisive role in the formation, as Engels said: "labor and created humankind. "It can be said that the Division of labor, determines the character of the men and women, also decided to men and women different love fate. In the woman's personality ", I said that: the original human labor Division, the men go out hunting, women are caregivers caves and kids, this kind of business outside the Division in charge, so that the men were in the situation, but women initiative were in passive situations; the men go out hunting, find, locate the target to attack, reset to kill their prey. They all work status at a proactive situation; woman different, their care caves and child, waiting out the men come back, as they and the children with food, wait for all the life in their State in a passive condition. (You can see the woman's personality ") long years of Labour Division, it is so decided the men and women different love character, men active and passive woman. 5000 years of human civilization, history, men and women on active and passive this love character very obvious. In feudal institution of marriage, the marriage is not free, parents arranged, but whether it is a good wife or husband to the wife to look after her husband, the husband is typically must be a first-come-first-family commissioned the matchmakers of marriage the woman's home, otherwise, the marriage no doors. Until today, the modern society, the love between men and women have been very open and free. Love's universal phenomenon remains active pursuit of the woman's husband, the wife wait passively for pursuit; this love forms never too big changes. (There are also women chasing men, but is not a common phenomenon) this is what men and women love the character. Of course, only the above phenomenon understanding men active and passive personality of the woman's love is not comprehensive of different, more importantly: men active and passive resulted in a woman's love choose direction on the fundamentally different. Man initiative: looking for a "I love" and "I" in front, "love" in the post, select from the clockwise direction: woman passive: to find a "love me", "love" in the former, the "I" in the post, select from the counterclockwise direction. In real life, we often see a kind of love: a man seeking a woman, the woman is not like this man, (but not annoying, if let women hate, this man is out of the question. Other: a woman's heart wasn't into the other guy. ) As long as man perseveringly pursues, often lady last; but if, in turn, emotion, is a woman seeking man perseveringly, men can seldom be emotional. People often Lady heart soft-hearted and relentless, men to understand the phenomenon of this love, in fact, this is a misunderstanding. In fact this kind of love is essentially a phenomenon of man and woman character may determine; Moreover, there is also a love phenomenon is better able to explain the problems, in General, men go through hardships to woman, love and happiness of the results of the comparison; on the contrary, woman seeking man, even at enormous, get this man, finally it is very difficult to have good results. For example: Chinese ancient classic love story of the White Snake, baisuzhen craft chased Xu Xian, finally ending was under pressure at leifeng pagoda, miserable! this is a love of one's personality. Because men would only treasure "I love" but does not treasure "love me"; the only female talent will cherish "love me". This is why I love is strongly opposed to the woman seeking man, because it violates people's natural character, often difficult to achieve a good result. Understanding this point is to understand human love is very important. Freud once said, a famous saying: "love is weak, only to be loved is fortunately Fuk!" this sentence on love, is true. Because, in love, "I love" love may not complete. In short: I love you, yet you don't love me, you won't have to love; "love me", but I love you love me you, me and you love arises between. Love in the final analysis is something that is common to man and woman can make. Men's "I love" without the woman's "love me" response, it can only be a one-sided affair, love is not love. This is the men and women love character first essential differences. From there, we can get one conclusion: in a person's character, the men than women lack the love of the gene. Men and women love character the second difference is: a man's character: "target" and "purpose", a woman's character: "select" and "aesthetic". The original human labor Division, men hunting. This work is extremely difficult and fraught with danger. Men looking for prey, with the goal of the initiative, the effort required is highly concentrated, even found the target, the game might instants that escape; also may run into fierce beast, people want to phase of life, and death often Bo in a line. In this work, men could not have leisure Qingyi interests, would not be possible deliberately, they did not have the time, there is no choice, their only option is the fastest and the shortest possible time, stop at nothing to bring down its prey, serve the purpose. They only care about the "purpose", only to be able to care for the "purpose", because the only way they can survive. Therefore, such labour status determines man's character, they only care about the "target" and "purpose". Women are different, their division of labor is due to pick flowers, berries, as a complement to the food and life. In this wayLabour status, they can be in labor leisure, fun, you can leisurely, they have a lot of time, you can select from; they must make a selection, because many flower and toxic, not consumption, woman to screening and to avoid eating poisoned. Also, the four seasons in plants and colorful, and pose for thousands, pretty nice. The choice of the labor, but also in training women aesthetic sensibility. Therefore, this kind of labour status determines the woman character: "select" and "aesthetic". Men and women of this character, in today's life often performance. For example: shopping. Men always go straight to the target to buy things, buying is done, you can do the trick; a woman like window shopping. When shopping is often a woman, who is the target. Shopping, shopping is one of the great women like; it is in fact they are shopping around at no cost: dry common woman who tirelessly in the Mall shopping hours, nothing to buy; the men are hard to understand the behavior, the women did enjoy it; because women know how to enjoy the "select" and men do not understand. Such different personalities in the love of nature also have different performance. In the choose love object, providing assistance to women than men in particular, the conditions are demanding a lot; there are few men to choose love and regret, women often regret for this; this is also the character of the men and women by men, find "my love", found, purpose, do not regret it; not found, the purpose, not to regret it; because there is no "selection", so there is no need to regret; woman, passive, "love me", as long as you love me, I certainly have to select it, choose to go to the selection, in all likelihood will be wrong. (In particular young girls themselves select the object, not experience. So, girls choose love object or hear the views of parents, must not be too wayward, too) and "love me", the more choices, the greater the probability of a wrong; for love is also bigger, it can be said that basically wrong, because love is sentimental, emotional can do a few things on to miles, unless you are especially good luck. Therefore, women are often wrong, often for this and regret that this is "select" to blame ! say "aesthetic", man and woman character difference is very big. A man concerned about "purpose", a focus on practical aesthetics; therefore, their aesthetic sensibility is always original, early stage, but does not change; woman in "select", choose in their aesthetic sensibility is constantly changing and constantly sublimation. To human history as an example of clothing: clothing to mankind has two functions: first, the practical function of keeping warm; second, decoration, aesthetic function. Ancient era, men dressed in animal hides, used for keeping warm is; women were dressed in costumes of the flowers, for aesthetic; of course, this is also the result of mankind's Division of labour. Till today, women's clothing styles, color bright, changes in the endless; man miles, twisted and only the few. Today, the vast majority of fashion designers in the world are working hard for women, men are very few in their field of vision. It can be said: in today's aesthetic fashion increasingly, men are more and more irrelevant. This is because the man's skin deep beauty. Take enjoy fashion model performance, the man show, mainly in the appreciation of the beauty of the female models, belong to appreciate "natural beauty"; woman show you appreciate the beauty, fashion model belongs to appreciate the beauty of the "cultural" aesthetic difference between the two is obvious. In love, men and women of this aesthetic difference performance is also very obvious. For men, love is always focused on "natural beauty". A young man of 20 years, looking for love, first choice pretty woman; a 40-year-old about middle-aged man, woman, or to find beautiful; a 70-year-old man from top to bottom, to find his wife, condition remains: "looks a little better man self"; from the beginning and end are called "natural beauty", nothing changes in my life, is very low, very original. A woman, a 20-year-old girl looking happy face; 30-year-old woman you are looking for talented man, like successful people, promising men; women over 40-year-old to find objects, called the human quality that you want to find someone good; a woman's love aesthetic with age, life experience different and changing, constantly sublimation, emotional connotation increasingly social identity, gradually away from the natural state; that's why I said: love the aesthetic, men and women and not at the same level. From the men and women love the character of this distinction, we can get the same conclusions; in character, the men than women, lack of love. Briefly summarize the above arguments: original Labor Division formed the men and women of different character, a man of character to place greater emphasis on the "results", woman character to place greater emphasis on the "process"; this different character also determines the men and women different love fate. What is love? experts tell us: love is in the "sex" as the basis of a universal human feelings; "sex" is the human instinct, if human instinct only "nature", human and animal won't be any different. (Different only people having sex with anywhere, anytime, animal mating is no, there is a season and a limit on the number of times. Who is the son of God, even the freedom of will, many distinct from human reason), because humans have IQ quotient; human love is so beautiful, because humans have noble feelings; love is to be human "nature" sublimation to "emotional" process, we call this process a love for aesthetic procedures. If this theory is true love, then, the inevitable human love exists a "nature" to "emotional" sublimation process. However, man's character that he is not concerned about "process", is concerned about the "results". Therefore, love, men often remain in a "sexual" level, they love the aesthetic often only show "desire", it is difficult to appreciate the emotional "sublimation" level; a woman's character concerned about "process", therefore, is to love, women will always be sublimated into "emotion" layer �r,They love the aesthetic is a real beauty, "emotional" aesthetic, a woman in love will always be able to reach the level of the "appreciation". It is this one different character determines the men and women different love fate: the man ignored love, woman to love. "The man ignored love, woman to love" the phenomenon has long been recognized. As the saying goes: male fear in the wrong line, women are afraid to marry the wrong son. Why only women afraid to marry the wrong husband, do not marry men on the wrong wife? this is really let people confused; they also said: a man attach importance to business, women to love. Seems to be men because of the so-called "undertakings" to ignore the love, in fact, this is a misunderstanding. Man ignored love, this is a man of character, and so-called "undertakings" and make no difference. "By the way, the" lie "is also a man of character. Line pen at this point, you must admit: I was depressed. We all know: good love is need men and women work together to build, together, the two sides can be dispensed with. But now the situation is: the man ignored love, only woman to love human love how to accomplish, how things go better? no man of truth, giving only a woman's heart, the love for a woman, can only be a good jarred, a beautiful lie. Outcomes can only be a tragedy. To portray the human love for what they say: men are very active, the woman said "I love", but he that is true, slighted love him! he's "my love" is false. Of course, men do not consider themselves to be untrue, he thinks he's "my love" is very true; women in these "my love" by pressing the "love me", they certainly do not know these "my love" is a little hypocrisy, so they paid the pay should be in love, sincere and affectionate. As a result, needless to say, a woman regrets also angry. Such love results let women very disappointed, but also very reluctant to do so. No way, man this pair of moral character, this is life. Many women only reconciled. Anyway, life is just a few decades, eyes closed, Pizza Hut, anything can be mixed in the past. So there is a very popular story, called "married marry a dog with chicken chicken with dog". Never heard of men marry chicken with chicken and marry the dog with the dog. Even marry chicken dog can casually, a woman's choice to a degree. Of course, some levels are high, it is the ideal woman, they refused to yield to fate, they want to fight. Thus, they can only choice "single". In today's popular "single" turmoil, the vast majority are women; there is the "love rebellious woman into", "love rebellious woman into the" not to marry does not go out, but they did not want to marry. Also, women generally have a second very bosom of homosexual friends, known as "girlfriends for." Very often, these "girlfriends for" relationship to far more than her husband or boyfriend. Here somewhat do not trust the man. As for the modern feminist movement in a lively discussion of the so-called "sisters love", that is a blatant to exclude men. Yes, men are so don't rely on the spectrum, so not much trust, width at a woman can only rely on the woman herself, this is no way to approach. Other woman. Really, say! just so that you can help a woman walked out of the dilemma of love? apparently! no man, a woman, there is no love. That woman knows. Thus, some love professional revolutionaries. They want to change this kind of love. They want to make love in a woman and men equal, they must be protected from harm in the love of a woman, they want to maintain a woman in love their rightful powers is kind-hearted, also very enthusiastic. But they did ? it should be said that the plight of human love is because man's character, to come out of this dilemma, we must transform the character of a man, to love more emphasis on the "process", as far as possible to limit the "desire", with a view to achieving greater aesthetic realm. Human civilization is shouldering the transformation of people shaping people's historical mission. Carry forward the "character" in good �r, get rid of the eradication of the worst �r, absorb the cream, exclude dross, this is the history of civilization, otherwise, what's the progress of human civilization pointlessness. Or as Rousseau said: civilization is the alienation of man, people should return to their natural state in life. So, would it not be white live 5000 years! can love revolutionaries often mess around, obviously should transform man thing, it is not dry, but to transform a woman. Today the spring tide of Western civilization still in shock to all corners of the world. The modern feminist movement initiated by the "gender equality" so the hearts of the people, especially women in depth. The meaning of "equality" is not only a social level, must go to the character level, and even gender level, otherwise, there is no way to achieve real equality. However, feminist does not have the capacity to transform men had to go to the transformation of a woman, hope it can achieve "gender equality". (See bo-Wen to the muscles and love "), in love, love revolutionaries were not to transform the character of a man and a woman is to transform. In other words: men are not concerned about "process", a woman is not concerned about "process"; the man only show "desire", a woman can only show the "desire"; in short, it is necessary to put the woman transformation more like a man, whether good or bad, all the men to the qi, as ifThis equality of men and women love it. Human love in such a revolutionary initiative, will eventually have to go it also used me! look, in "love freedom," the flag waving �r, those in love boys and girls were ignorant ignorant understand, nothing out, began as a quest for a free, open, as a result, "" free, "" open, human love more and more recognition to the "nature". As for "feelings" but to let it "! " people's emotional and only becoming more and more light, this is the general trend of human history. Just love, even family ties. "This is an expert's assertion, hear this thesis, I was shocked and very sad, I hope this is not a reality, but also think: this is most likely that is reality. History often make people very perplexed, today, I would be lost.